Some people have deep connections. Others have not. Deep connections survive about everything. Other connections will (ultimately) fail. My diagram is about the ingredients of such connections, like the how, what, when, where, & who. The presence of ingredients will provide a (good or bad) mix. Most ingredients are from my 2022 blog The 7 elements that define...
I’m in a new phase of my rollercoaster of solitude and loneliness. I failed to see this coming, despite part 6 of this blog series from October 2024. My comforting feeing of solitude seems to have vanished into thin air. Feelings of (temporary) loneliness have replaced my solitude. I can hardly remember such feelings. I’m not sure if I ever experienced those...
The statement above is usually (mis)attributed to economist John Maynard Keynes (1883-1946). Many - if not most - facts are time-boxed. A famous example is the 1609 controversy on heliocentrism: does the Earth rotate around the Sun (eg, Galileo Galilei) or vice versa (ie, the Roman Catholic Church)? Not changing your mind when the facts change, reveals the existence...
In a recent facebook remark, I wondered how we can restore togetherness in a society; or in Dutch: hoe krijg je saamhorigheid terug in een "samen"leving? Our Western societies are often characterized by glorifying freedom (eg, sexual expression, speech) and by individualism. I received several replies. A friend of a friend is convinced that global grass roots...
Last Friday, I had an epiphany. In my 2015 blog, I wrote about the 4 ingredients that constitute a relationship. My 2016 blog added another 3. My 2021 blog was a summary. These 7 ingredients define many (or all) types of relationships: communication, forgiveness, intimacy, respect, togetherness, trust and vulnerability. Any type of relationship starts - and ends -...
Recently, a father sent congratulations on his daughter's wedding on Dutch radio. That message also mentioned that this couple is each other's friend. Latter struck a nerve. Despite some exceptions, a lack of friendship is indeed characteristic for my failed relationships. Moreover, the people whom you will miss, are your...
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