Recently, I dreamt about being ignored. The evening before, something happened that may well have triggered that dream. Feeling ignored may, however, be misguided as not everyone pays immediate attention. Ghosting is a modern name of deliberately ignoring virtual contact (eg, my 2019 blog). Ignoring someone may look like a powerful tool to express your discontent...
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Healing
While doing the final edit of my recent blog, Damaged goods (2), I wondered about the word healing. Healing is (much) easier said than done. Why is it necessary? What is healing? How to get there? When is it finalised? I hope my blog will give (you) some answers to those questions. I think, feel and believe that the Why is about restoring the balance & symmetry...
The road to self-love or philautia
Last Thursday morning, Dutch band Rondé was promoting their new single: I'm ready to love myself (see song below). The band's singer was talking about her transformation to self-love (in Greek: philautia). Before, she did not believe in the healing nature of loving yourself. How do you get there? It's important to realise that both love and self-love are output and...
Why can’t you learn from success?
You probably know the expression "never change a winning team". Often, success feels like magic because we don't really know or understand its ingredients. Changing the ingredients may jeopardize success. Hence, the soccer quote by Sir Alf Ramsey (1920-1999). An 2011 article in Harvard Business Review came to similar conclusion: Why...
Don’t ask questions if you don’t want to hear the answer (2)
Late 2019, I wrote my blog Don't ask questions if you don't want to hear the answer. Early February 2020, someone asked me why I had visited her dating profile without leaving her a message. I reread her profile and slowly it dawned upon me why I had not. Her looks had felt condescending and some items in her profile had not appealed to me. I wondered if I...
Decoupling: de-radicalisation (6)
Some days ago, I noticed this heading in an article from The National: "The last two attacks in London indicate UK's approach to de-radicalisation is failing". I just wondered: is de-radicalisation even an option? Radicalisation is similar to having extreme beliefs. Convicting extreme believers to jail time is more likely to increase having extreme beliefs and...
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