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Black vs white vs the many shades of grey

Most people wear either black or white. Only some people wear grey. Grey is often considered a dull colour. It's the same with opinions: most have a micro or a macro focus. Few opinions are in between (ie, gray/grey). Why is grey (eg, colour, opinion) considered as dull? Why don't we like grey? People consider their skin colour as either black or white. However,...

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Judging people

Tuesday last week, several people commented on my draft blog on Parenting. One of them included a nasty judgement about me without even knowing me. We live 2,000+ kilometers away. She claims she is my friend and even her brother. To me, her comment felt as betrayal of our (online) friendship. Her comment didn't hurt me though because you can only hurt someone with...

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The 7 elements that define the type of relationship

Last Friday, I had an epiphany. In my 2015 blog, I wrote about the 4 ingredients that constitute a relationship. My 2016 blog added another 3. My 2021 blog was a summary. These 7 ingredients define many (or all) types of relationships: communication, forgiveness, intimacy, respect, togetherness, trust and vulnerability. Any type of relationship starts - and ends -...

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Obedience to authority: respect vs Power

"Bosses have power over their workers, parents have power over their children, and, more generally, we can say that those in authority have power over their subordinates. In short, power refers to the process of social influence itself—those who have power are those who are most able to influence others." (a quote from Obedience, Power, and Leadership). Power needs...

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I cannot, I may not, I don’t want to

In Dutch we have a saying: "Kan Niet is een broertje van Mag Niet en ligt op het kerkhof naast Wil Niet" (eg, Ensie). This translates like: 'I cannot' is the brother of 'I may not' and lies in the graveyard next to 'I don't want to'. All three excuses are considered platitudes in both languages. An obvious reply would be: just do it! We often say that we cannot do...

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Money matters

My mother (86) always says that financial worries are the worst ones to have in a relationship. As far as I'm aware, money was never too tight to mention (lyrics, video, Wiki) while growing up. In 2013, I was afraid that I was heading for a personal bankruptcy following my divorce battles in various courts that lasted for 4-5 years. Fortunately, my string of bad...

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