Sta Hungry Stay Foolish

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

A blog by Leon Oudejans
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“Solitude has always been my analgesic of choice.”

Recently, I heard these words in the Amazon Prime series Forever (S1E08, 40m50s): "Solitude has always been my analgesic of choice. But what if feeling nothing is the worst pain of all? What if the sharing of pain connects us to others and reminds us that none of us is alone as long as we can feel?" Note: URLs and italic markings in quote by me. I'm wondering...

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Making compromises

I've lots of experience in making compromises (eg, with myself, with others). Nevertheless, it never occurred to me that others are doing the very same. Actually, 1 compromise often exists of 3 compromises: yours, her/his, and the mutual compromise. However, your and her/his compromise will shift in time. Why do we compromise? First and foremost, intentions will...

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Trust arrives on foot and leaves on horseback

My title above is an English translation of a saying by Dutch statesman Johan Rudolph Thorbecke (1798-1872): "Vertrouwen komt te voet en gaat te paard." His saying is valid on a micro or individual and on a macro or (inter-) national level. Trust can be restored though, albeit neither blind nor full. I suppose our doubt and our fear, for renewed betrayal of our...

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The 7 elements that define the type of relationship

Last Friday, I had an epiphany. In my 2015 blog, I wrote about the 4 ingredients that constitute a relationship. My 2016 blog added another 3. My 2021 blog was a summary. These 7 ingredients define many (or all) types of relationships: communication, forgiveness, intimacy, respect, togetherness, trust and vulnerability. Any type of relationship starts - and ends -...

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A holistic view on dating

Recently, a former girlfriend made an interesting remark to me: "You have a holistic view on dating." Her actual Dutch words are rather difficult to translate: "Jij zoekt het totaalplaatje." In her view, this explains my disappointments in dating. Her perspective was new to me. I suppose, she might be right though. My (alleged) holistic view includes a focus on...

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Just my type

Sometimes, you immediately recognize it (eg, from a picture): she is just my type. Most of the times, there is doubt. Else, you just know (for sure) that someone is not your type. These instances are unknown knowns within our consciousness. We may also refer to this phenomenon as feelings or intuition or instinct. In 2017, I published my blog entitled: the 4 levels...

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