Before doing anything, I first decide if I’m able to. My second consideration is whether I dare to do it (now). My third consideration is whether I’m really willing to do it. When these three hurdles are taken then doing becomes logical and usually right away. No more delays or procrastination. The reverse works differently. People often use the excuse that they...
My title is a translation of a Dutch saying (eg, Dutch examples). This saying was new to me and caught my immediate attention. Once you start thinking about it then it indeed seems true. Feel free to change the word love by the word attention. I prefer the word love though. The Nobel-winning English polymath Bertrand Russell (1872–1970) wrote about...
Recently, I finished (re-)watching the pilot episode of Ally McBeal, an "American legal comedy drama television series" that aired from 1997 until 2002. That episode finished with some thoughts of Ally that felt like an eye-opener to me. These were her exact words; see transcript: "ALLY: The real truth is, I probably don't want to be too happy or content. Because,...
There's often a thin line between expectations and hope. Sometimes, you even wonder if there's a difference. I suppose the main difference is time. Hope does not have a timeframe; expectations usually do. Both assume that something will happen. The degree of certainty varies significantly. A recent Aeon article suggests that there is another difference: When hope is...
Several of my blogs stated that life is like a roundabout (eg, 2017 and 2023). Sometimes, its exits are a one-way street (my 2023 blog), or even a dead-end street. Marriages and/or relationships show similar exit features (eg, a break-up or divorce). The main question is: when to get off. The other 5 main questions (ie, How-What-Where-Who-Why) have - usually -...
I have a dilemma and don't really know what to do besides my acceptance of a certain decision. The how of that decision is the center of my dilemma. I fail to see a solution - or an alternative - for that how. I'm afraid that the how will cause hurt and pain and possibly even regret and/or remorse. Strictly speaking, the model of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1926-2004)...
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