A friend says that she envies me for protecting my heart so well. Indeed, it seems that I'm not hurt by the one(s) whom I love the most. Late 2010, I decided to stop my heart from bleeding by building an imaginary sarcophagus around it. Most of the year, it indeed helps me soldiering on. My friend is slowly copying my solution because she fears that the hurting will...
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To measure is to know, except in love
21 Feb, 2023
"Sayings such as “to measure is to know,” “if you cannot measure it, you cannot improve it,” and “what gets measured gets done” can be traced to at least William Thomson, who later became Lord Kelvin." (2022 study in T&F). There is, however, one exception: we cannot measure Love. My thought, and title above, came up following a discussion on my Valentine's blog:...
Do men really love women?
14 Feb, 2023
Today's blog is an interesting topic for Valentine's Day: do men really love women? The question in a Quora post is far worse: "Do men really love women, or do they just use them?" At least, I'm glad that my question is on the mind of "many" men - and even women (eg, PT-2011, JGC-2019). Today's topic was triggered by a recent conversation with a former colleague. He...
Irrational belief systems
9 Feb, 2023
Last week, I watched a few episodes of New Tricks, rated #7.9 in IMDb. In Se 06 Ep 2, the words irrational belief systems are suddenly mentioned. As far as I can remember, I have never plotted my concept of the 7 Belief systems along the axes of rational versus logical. This is my initial diagram. For 4 of the 7 Belief systems, there is no (eg, scientific) evidence...
Dirty laundry
20 Jan, 2023
Why would anyone want to display her/his dirty laundry in public?? Merriam-Webster on dirty laundry: "private matters whose public exposure brings distress and embarrassment". The reasons that I can think of are both positive (ie, Love) and negative (eg, hate, revenge & retaliation). The British media focus on my negative explanations. My perspective is...
Why do we deny?
23 Dec, 2022
Our reasons for denying something, appear to be almost endless. Denial may be a response to negative emotions (eg, guilt & shame, regret & remorse), and/but also to positive emotions (eg, confident humility, love). From a rational point of view, denial seems illogical. So, why do we deny? Denying is part of lying (ie, what). Children start lying at c.3 years...
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