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A blog by Leon Oudejans
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Connections: how, what, when, where, who & why

Connections: how, what, when, where, who & why

Some people have deep connections. Others have not. Deep connections survive about everything. Other connections will (ultimately) fail. My diagram is about the ingredients of such connections, like the how, what, when, where, & who. The presence of ingredients will provide a (good or bad) mix. Most ingredients are from my 2022 blog The 7 elements that define...

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The rollercoaster of solitude and loneliness (7)

The rollercoaster of solitude and loneliness (7)

I’m in a new phase of my rollercoaster of solitude and loneliness. I failed to see this coming, despite part 6 of this blog series from October 2024. My comforting feeing of solitude seems to have vanished into thin air. Feelings of (temporary) loneliness have replaced my solitude. I can hardly remember such feelings. I’m not sure if I ever experienced those...

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The fine line

There’s a fine line between a friendship and a relationship. It’s an either / or situation. The threshold is intimacy. Once that threshold has been crossed, there’s a new fine line (eg, us vs them). Crossing that second fine line often ends everything (ie, friendship and relationship). According to Oscar Wilde, there’s one serious problem: “Between men and women...

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Bisexuality and trust

Our belief systems are governed by three domains: Love, Knowledge & Power. All three domains have trust issues, like fake news (Knowledge) and lying politicians (Power). The domain that (probably) has most trust issues is Love. How can bisexual people even trust each other?? A 2019 Pew Research Center report appears to confirm those trust issues: Bisexual adults...

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The rollercoaster of solitude and loneliness (7)

The 7 elements that define the type of relationship

Last Friday, I had an epiphany. In my 2015 blog, I wrote about the 4 ingredients that constitute a relationship. My 2016 blog added another 3. My 2021 blog was a summary. These 7 ingredients define many (or all) types of relationships: communication, forgiveness, intimacy, respect, togetherness, trust and vulnerability. Any type of relationship starts - and ends -...

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Balancing friendship, intimacy and trust

Balancing friendship, intimacy and trust

Recently, my best friend forever acknowledged that I'm still her BFF despite all that happened since we broke up. I'm relieved that we've finally reconnected. She asked me if there could still be a future between us. I had to consider her question. I said that it's definitely not a no. It's probably a yes, provided that certain conditions would be met. She said...

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