Recently, I wondered whether relationships are part of a zero-sum game, in which one wins (+1) and the other one loses (-1). The sum of -1 +1 equals zero. In my case, I'm inclined to view my relationships as a losing game. Nevertheless, Love should constitute as a win-win. When in love, both people would normally feel more happy and satisfied. If Love is an...
28 Oct, 2021
Our shadow is a nickname for our past and/or our reputation. Rephrasing my blog title's question results in: - Can you escape your past? (eg, guilt & shame, regret & remorse)- Can you change who and/or what you are? (eg, thief, murderer) A Google search revealed a Chinese Taoist story from an ancient book named after its author Master Zhuang Zhou. The book...
21 Oct, 2021
Recently, I wrote that I'm looking for a combination of a friend, lover, muse and a soulmate. An online friend added another relevant role that is important to her (and me): a partner. Each role has a different functionality. What are the odds of finding such a combination of roles? Actually, these odds are surprisingly slim. The best odds are about finding a lover...
18 Oct, 2021
As a boy, I dreamt about becoming an archeologist and write a book. It never happened. I still love ancient history though. My father owned a local barber shop annex clothing store and dreamt about one of his two boys becoming his successor. That never happened. He died at 61 and never saw his sons reach their full potential. That memory left a scar inside me. My...
20 Sep, 2021
Saturday a week ago, a sudden sensation of emptiness came over me. If anything, it was a rational "feeling" rather than anything emotional. Moreover, it felt different than loneliness (an emotional low) or solitude (a "rational" high). Also see my related blogs on solitude & loneliness. A 2015 Thought Catalog article by Nicole Tarkoff describes it well. To...
6 Jul, 2021
While editing my July 1 blog, I discovered the flow model by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. It combines several of my topics: Boredom, Control, Doubt (worry), Fear (anxiety), and Flow. Arousal is covered by my blogs on Love and on lust. Relaxation is covered in my blogs on happiness & satisfaction, and confident humility. Until my July 1 blog, I had never written...
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