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Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

A blog by Leon Oudejans
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Does your shadow ever leave you?

Our shadow is a nickname for our past and/or our reputation. Rephrasing my blog title's question results in: - Can you escape your past? (eg, guilt & shame, regret & remorse)- Can you change who and/or what you are? (eg, thief, murderer) A Google search revealed a Chinese Taoist story from an ancient book named after its author Master Zhuang Zhou. The book...

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Advantage vs Empathy (3)

While looking at my notes for future blogs, I noticed this one: "Alignment between personal and group interests only possible if Empathy > Advantage". This statement applies to all situations, like a family, relationship, sports team, study group, and at work. Example: Why stay with [an employer] when you can increase your Advantage by quitting? If you replace...

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Helicopter parents and backseat children

My father and mother had their own business in the countryside village where my brother and I grew up. They were unable to spend much time with us. Both our parents come from large families and were (probably) used to receiving little parental supervision. My brother and I wandered around in our village and spent time with friends. Sometimes, we made mistakes and...

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Money matters

My mother (86) always says that financial worries are the worst ones to have in a relationship. As far as I'm aware, money was never too tight to mention (lyrics, video, Wiki) while growing up. In 2013, I was afraid that I was heading for a personal bankruptcy following my divorce battles in various courts that lasted for 4-5 years. Fortunately, my string of bad...

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Exit strategy

Exit strategy

In my view, an exit clause and/or strategy is the most important element in an agreement, a contract or in a certain situation (eg, Covid-19 exit strategy). However, it's also an underestimated step despite that (marriage) contracts do end prematurely (eg, divorce). Outsourcing contracts may have the worst exit strategies as if people forgot to even think about...

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My worst fear is becoming reality

On my bucket list is just one item: to reconnect with my daughter. Everything else feels irrelevant. In the last 10 years, I have only met her twice. The problem is not her and not me. There is an invisible though physical obstacle in between us. Before, that person was just destroying my life. Now, that person is also damaging my daughter's life....

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