Last Thursday morning, Dutch band Rondé was promoting their new single: I'm ready to love myself (see song below). The band's singer was talking about her transformation to self-love (in Greek: philautia). Before, she did not believe in the healing nature of loving yourself. How do you get there? It's important to realise that both love and self-love are output and...
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Negativity: not forgetting + not forgiving + not loving (yourself)
8 Apr, 2022
I'm not good in forgetting (eg, bad events). I forgive easily but not everyone. For decades, I did not love myself (eg, failed marriage). My introspection, following my 2013 burnout and subsequent depression, allowed me to achieve philautia or self-love. Narcissism is an extreme form of self-love and/but without any doubt. Writing the aforementioned paragraph made...
What is peace? The absence of war?
21 Mar, 2022
Allegedly, Russia wants peace with Ukraine, less than a month after its invasion of Ukraine. To many people, this desire is (very) hard to believe. Hence, some argue that it's a tactical move (eg, replenishing Russian troops). Why trust an aggressor and a war criminal? Moreover, what is peace? The absence of war? When I was in my teens in the 1970's, there was a...
Neutrality
17 Mar, 2022
About a decade ago, a friend expressed his intention on staying neutral in my divorce. I expressed my doubts: not picking sides in a conflict, like a divorce, seemed impossible. Subsequently, it appeared that his neutrality was in his words, and not in his deeds. Also see my blogs on Deeds, Words & Intentions. In 2017, the Chinese president stated that the...
Does your shadow ever leave you?
28 Oct, 2021
Our shadow is a nickname for our past and/or our reputation. Rephrasing my blog title's question results in: - Can you escape your past? (eg, guilt & shame, regret & remorse)- Can you change who and/or what you are? (eg, thief, murderer) A Google search revealed a Chinese Taoist story from an ancient book named after its author Master Zhuang Zhou. The book...
Advantage vs Empathy (3)
13 Jul, 2021
While looking at my notes for future blogs, I noticed this one: "Alignment between personal and group interests only possible if Empathy > Advantage". This statement applies to all situations, like a family, relationship, sports team, study group, and at work. Example: Why stay with [an employer] when you can increase your Advantage by quitting? If you replace...
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