Late last week, I got a brain wave (see title above) while watching a Hallmark movie. Suddenly, I realised that I'm stuck in 4 of the 5 DABDA stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression while being unable to reach stage 5: Acceptance. The similarity with my mother (91) is striking. Subsequently, I realised that Hope might be the flipside of DABDA. That coin...
A few minutes ago, a thought 'entered' my mind: the law of unintended consequences. I wanted to waive it because I was sure that I had written about it. I did not though. I only mentioned it in a few blogs: If Good does bad, does Good become Bad? (2021) and The micro-macro conundrum (2019). The law of unintended consequences is the principle that actions often...
Intro LO: In a market economy, lower consumer demand is compensated by lower (eg, manufacturing) supply in order to maintain consumer prices. Lower demand without lower supply, will cause high inventories, and the need for price reductions in retail and wholesale. Latter is called (price) deflation. Clearly, China does not quality as a market economy given the very...
My mother (90) realizes she must accept her change of moving to a nursing home. We know there's no alternative. Nevertheless, her acceptance (ie, of major Change or grief) is hard because her unhappiness still wins. For weeks, she is in stage 3 of the Kübler-Ross model, being Bargaining: My 2025 blog: The (in)evitability of acceptance In my view, she still...
Onlangs vroeg ik mijn moeder hoe het met haar ging. Ze antwoordde me met "Ik wil hier weg.....". Na een korte denkpauze vroeg ik haar waar ze dan eigenlijk naar toe wil. Dat wist ze niet. Ik zei dat er géén oplossing is. Dat begreep ze. Over die oplossing had ik namelijk al maandenlang nagedacht. Ik vertelde haar dat ze er uiteindelijk ook weg komt. Ze leek me eerst...
My question (above) looks simple. Sometimes, it actually is indeed. More often, my question is not simple because help is not always welcome. Helping someone creates an IOU. Accepting help suggests having a weakness. Offering help suggests you're a know-it-all. Help is complex. In my view, help is about: Deeds, Words & Intentions (eg, words of comfort, good...
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