Today's blog is an interesting topic for Valentine's Day: do men really love women? The question in a Quora post is far worse: "Do men really love women, or do they just use them?" At least, I'm glad that my question is on the mind of "many" men - and even women (eg, PT-2011, JGC-2019). Today's topic was triggered by a recent conversation with a former colleague. He...
Dating
Single: by choice, circumstances, or both?
22 Dec, 2022
Recently, I watched a video interview in which a man says something along the lines of "You're so pretty and still single; how can that be?" The woman is clearly stung by that remark. After a while, she says something like "Yes, I'm single but not by choice. I stress: not by choice." Her remark stung me. Similar to that actress, I’m not single by choice. Like her,...
Let it flow
28 Nov, 2022
Something broke inside me during the trip back from Germany. Initially, I assumed it was due to the prior night without sleep. Slowly, it dawned upon me that she and I lack a future together. I suppose that it's fair to say that our chemistry has slowly vanished until it was gone. I have been slow to accept the above. Probably because I was in denial. I preferred my...
Chemistry
17 Nov, 2022
The word chemistry was quite often used during my recent viewing of Hallmark Christmas films; see my related blog. Defining chemistry is as hard as defining love. Both are container terms. The ancient Greek had at least 6 different words for love (eg, Wiki). Chemistry has at least 3 types. My diagram is the result of a conversation. Once again, she has inspired me....
The power of sex
13 Oct, 2022
Recently, Carole Hooven, a Harvard professor of evolutionary biology claimed that ‘It’s obvious that men are much more driven by sex than women’ (El Pais). Obviously (sic!), her claim fits the stereotype: men are dominant and women are passive. It's quite weird that this stereotype still exists. My own experiences do not support her view (above). Generalizing my own...
Why are people lying?
15 Sep, 2022
Last Saturday's blog, Men and women both lie in dating profiles, but not about the same things (Big Think), resulted in a private message. She was curious why people are lying in their dating profile because the truth will come out during the first date. I had had a similar thought but had ignored it. This topic was more difficult than I anticipated given the (very)...
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