I have an adage in my life: maximising major changes in life to only one (1). Late 2024, a friend bought a house in Spain and left the Netherlands. My friend speaks adequate Spanish and had visited that region for many years, albeit as a Dutch tourist. My friend should have “grounded” but did not. Change in life is usually about family, friendship, house,...
Late last week, I got a brain wave (see title above) while watching a Hallmark movie. Suddenly, I realised that I'm stuck in 4 of the 5 DABDA stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression while being unable to reach stage 5: Acceptance. The similarity with my mother (91) is striking. Subsequently, I realised that Hope might be the flipside of DABDA. That coin...
In 2013, I crossed my own boundary. The result was a severe burnout and a subsequent depression that lasted for about 18 months. After my healing, I decided that jobs are among my new boundaries in life. I do not consider my (almost daily) writing as working, even despite its similarities. The Google AI Overview is quite clear: Crossing your own boundaries...
Onlangs vroeg ik mijn moeder hoe het met haar ging. Ze antwoordde me met "Ik wil hier weg.....". Na een korte denkpauze vroeg ik haar waar ze dan eigenlijk naar toe wil. Dat wist ze niet. Ik zei dat er géén oplossing is. Dat begreep ze. Over die oplossing had ik namelijk al maandenlang nagedacht. Ik vertelde haar dat ze er uiteindelijk ook weg komt. Ze leek me eerst...
Recently, soul legend Sly Stone died at the age of 82. A Dutch narrative claimed his success had important drawbacks, like "drug use and erratic behavior". Apparently, success has like 20 negative factors. Hence, the article The Paradox of Success by Bill Cole. I do recognize several of those 20 factors. My career suggests I have had success. The volume of spamming...
Onlangs nam de burnout het ff van mij over. Ik werd boos - op mezelf - omdat ik mijn zaakjes niet op orde had. Vervolgens voelde ik me opgejaagd door mijn vriendin en ik waarschuwde haar: doe dat ajb niet want dat heeft nare gevolgen. Rust, orde en regelmaat zijn essentieel in mijn post-burnout leven. In mijn 2024 blog Kun je genezen van een burnout? schreef ik...
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