Late last week, I got a brain wave (see title above) while watching a Hallmark movie. Suddenly, I realised that I'm stuck in 4 of the 5 DABDA stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression while being unable to reach stage 5: Acceptance. The similarity with my mother (91) is striking. Subsequently, I realised that Hope might be the flipside of DABDA. That coin...
Actually, I could have used a step in between, which would have altered my title into: Fantasy + fiction = Sci-Fi + Science = Technology. Some examples: drones, lasers, and robots. An example of my blog title is the 1984 film The Terminator, rated at #8.1 on IMDb. Today, the main item that is still missing is: time travel. The arrow of time appears to be...
Recently, Belgian politicians had an interesting discussion: which party in the Gaza Strip is the worst of two evils? The Flemish president didn't know who is the worst evil. HLN: “niet te weten wie de ‘grootste smeerlap’ in het conflict is". I agree because the lesser of two evils principle does not apply. The entire Gaza Strip "conflict" feels like a reminder of...
My mother (90) realizes she must accept her change of moving to a nursing home. We know there's no alternative. Nevertheless, her acceptance (ie, of major Change or grief) is hard because her unhappiness still wins. For weeks, she is in stage 3 of the Kübler-Ross model, being Bargaining: My 2025 blog: The (in)evitability of acceptance In my view, she still...
Onlangs vroeg ik mijn moeder hoe het met haar ging. Ze antwoordde me met "Ik wil hier weg.....". Na een korte denkpauze vroeg ik haar waar ze dan eigenlijk naar toe wil. Dat wist ze niet. Ik zei dat er géén oplossing is. Dat begreep ze. Over die oplossing had ik namelijk al maandenlang nagedacht. Ik vertelde haar dat ze er uiteindelijk ook weg komt. Ze leek me eerst...
My question (above) looks simple. Sometimes, it actually is indeed. More often, my question is not simple because help is not always welcome. Helping someone creates an IOU. Accepting help suggests having a weakness. Offering help suggests you're a know-it-all. Help is complex. In my view, help is about: Deeds, Words & Intentions (eg, words of comfort, good...
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