A friend says that she envies me for protecting my heart so well. Indeed, it seems that I'm not hurt by the one(s) whom I love the most. Late 2010, I decided to stop my heart from bleeding by building an imaginary sarcophagus around it. Most of the year, it indeed helps me soldiering on. My friend is slowly copying my solution because she fears that the hurting will...
Acceptance
Situational ethics
11 Jan, 2023
A simple example will clarify my topic: killing is wrong (principle); killing bad guys is right (eg, a military rule of engagement). This topic (ie, situational ethics) emerged from a recent conversation with a friend. Situational ethics provide a balance between principles and pragmatism. My friend was challenging my principle not to vaccinate myself (because I'm...
When (not) to apologize
19 Dec, 2022
The Dutch Cabinet has pledged to apologize for our history in the slave trade. Today is that day. A few centuries ago, our ancestors transported (most) slaves from Africa to their destination. Slave trading was done by Arabs (with the help of African tribes) and still continues today. Actually, today's slavery is even bigger than before. That weird fact seems...
Healing
14 Dec, 2022
While doing the final edit of my recent blog, Damaged goods (2), I wondered about the word healing. Healing is (much) easier said than done. Why is it necessary? What is healing? How to get there? When is it finalised? I hope my blog will give (you) some answers to those questions. I think, feel and believe that the Why is about restoring the balance & symmetry...
Sorrow never comes too late and happiness too swiftly flies
8 Dec, 2022
My title is borrowed from the 1768 poem Ode on a Distant Prospect of Eton College by Thomas Gray (1716-1771). I suppose those words express what I've been feeling for some time. I've been entering the doubt-fear phase of our (eternal) cycle of Doubt, Fear, Hope & Love. This poem is famous for its last two lines of its final verse. I have added the third-last...
Let it flow
28 Nov, 2022
Something broke inside me during the trip back from Germany. Initially, I assumed it was due to the prior night without sleep. Slowly, it dawned upon me that she and I lack a future together. I suppose that it's fair to say that our chemistry has slowly vanished until it was gone. I have been slow to accept the above. Probably because I was in denial. I preferred my...
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