I just wondered if it’s possible having no or low expectations (about others). Perhaps, having low expectations about yourself will result in low expectations about others – and vice versa. Hence, expectations and reciprocity seem quite related.
The aforementioned may explain my “issue” in life: I have high expectations about myself, and lowering my expectations (about others) is quite hard. Pleasant conversations increase my expectations (about others). This might be related to psychological projection (onto others). Managing expectations is a solution.
An interesting thought just entered my mind: increasing our expectations may be the common path towards a friendship and/or a relationship. Increasing our expectations suggests a connection with Needs, Wants & Beliefs.
Some time ago, I heard this quote on TV: “When women are nice to you, they want something …… ”. Others feel similar (eg, Quora). In my view, the word people equals women in that quote. His expectations caused less happiness
Moreover, several articles – as well as the quote below – suggest an inverse correlation between expectations and happiness. Hence, the more expectations, the less happiness.
I doubt that the opposite is (also) true: less expectations = more happiness. It seems to me that happiness is the output of many ingredients (eg, education, family, housing, job, loneliness, money).
Probably, human interconnectedness, reciprocity, and trust will (always) result in expectations.
Managing our expectations is the hardest part of our expectations.
To be continued.
Google AI Overview about the quote below: “Essentially, it’s a powerful reminder to live in the present, embrace what you have, and let go of rigid future-based desires for a more peaceful, happy life”.
“There’s an idea I came across a few years ago that I love: My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance and in inverse proportion to my expectations. That’s the key for me. If I can accept the truth of ‘This is what I’m facing – not what can I expect but what I am experiencing now’ – then I have all this freedom to do other things.”
A quote by Michael J. Fox (b.1961), a film and TV actor
Expectations (2018) by Lauren Jauregui
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-song
Chorus]
Wish I had no expectations
But I expect, you expect, we expect
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise
My previous blog articles on this topic are here:
- 2015: Expectations
- 2017: Expectations (2)
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