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A blog by Leon Oudejans

The fine line

There’s a fine line between a friendship and a relationship. It’s an either / or situation. The threshold is intimacy. Once that threshold has been crossed, there’s a new fine line (eg, us vs them). Crossing that second fine line often ends everything (ie, friendship and relationship).

According to Oscar Wilde, there’s one serious problem: “Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.” (source)

Often, men agree with Oscar Wilde and women disagree. In my view, the expectations between men and women differ (a lot). In my view, men always want more (ie, intimacy), while women do not need more. I suppose that men are eager to believe that women are sending “signals”.

Once both parties (i) resolve the (mutual) “misunderstandings”, and (ii) agree that the threshold must remain in place then the friendship may survive. In certain situations, a friendship is more important than a relationship. That fine line between both must be re-established.

New misunderstandings may easily rise again. Hence, I suppose that a threshold needs safeguards, both in time (eg, frequency) and in (geographical) space. I still remember the example of two friends travelling together. They returned as a couple, leaving two broken relationships.

It’s Too Late (1971) by Carole King
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-song

[Verse 1]
Stayed in bed all morning just to pass the time
There’s something wrong here, there can be no denying
One of us is changing, or maybe we just stopped trying

Note: all markings (bolditalicunderlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.


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