Recently, I finished (re-)watching the pilot episode of Ally McBeal, an “American legal comedy drama television series” that aired from 1997 until 2002. That episode finished with some thoughts of Ally that felt like an eye-opener to me. These were her exact words; see transcript:
“ALLY: The real truth is, I probably don’t want to be too happy or content. Because, then what? I actually like the quest, the search. That’s the fun. The more lost you are, the more you have to look forward to. What do you know? I’m having a great time and I don’t even know it.”
Transcript of pilot episode (Se01 Ep01) of Ally McBeal
In some of my blogs, there is indeed a caveat on “finding” happiness and satisfaction: what is then left for me?? I had neither considered nor realised that this caveat might be a/the reason for my procrastination, and perhaps even self-sabotage, with respect to “finding” happiness and satisfaction.
The fact that Ally’s words stung me like a bee, is reason enough for considering their validity. Moreover, I felt an immediate truth in her words. I even replayed that scene a couple of times to verify what I had heard. Afterwards, her words kept lingering on my mind: could this also be true for me?
Everyone needs a goal in life (eg, family, hobbies, love, relationship, study, work). Without such dreams or goals, we have lived a completed life. What’s left, apart from death?
Considering my 2021 diagram, we may never be able to reach a completed (ie, 100%) life.
Hence, there will always be regrets at the end of our lives. Common regrets usually start with these words: ” I wish I had ……..”.
Those type of regrets are also the subject of a 2011 book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by former nurse Bronnie Ware, “inspired by her time as a palliative carer“.
Given the above, we tend to look forward, like for the meaning of life and/or for our purpose in life.
Looking back is a waste of time as we cannot change the past (eg, arrow of Time).
Time is often our solution in life. We believe that there will be a tomorrow for making amends (eg, family, love, study, work). I live my life as if there is no tomorrow. I want to live my life with no regrets. Nevertheless, I’m grateful for every new day and new opportunity for making amends.
“At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.”
A quote from Life, the Truth, and Being Free (2009) by author Steve Maraboli
Searchin’ My Soul (1992) by Vonda Shepard
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-album+song 1992, Wiki-Ally McBeal songs 1997-2002
I’ve been searchin my soul tonight
Don’t wanna be alone in life
Now I know I can shine a light
To find my way back home
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.
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