Recently, someone asked me the above question. She was serious, while I hardly know her. Our geographical distance prevents a quick visit. I answered her by using a quote from Dutch statesman Johan Rudolph Thorbecke (1798-1872): “Trust comes by foot and leaves on horseback.”
The question above is often abused by scammers. Once you reply with a “Yes” then you will be trapped while answering their subsequent questions. Many people will consider it rude to reply with a “No”. Hence, they will try to avoid answering that question. My answer was evasive as well.
In my view, I did answer her question. My answer indicates that trust comes slowly. The longer you know someone, the more trust will develop between two persons. Initial trust is always limited. Blind trust may never come. Her answer to me was rude: “Thanks for the stupid quote.”
I have no clue why she asked me her question. I didn’t bother asking her Why. My policy is: don’t ask questions if you don’t want to hear the answer; my 2019 blog. Trust is a delicate matter. The more you talk about trust, the more likely you will doubt someone’s true intentions.
Trust is the main issue in our lives. It defines our choice between (i) competition versus cooperation, (ii) friend or foe, (iii) marriage or divorce, and (iv) truth or falsehoods. In my view, it’s almost a miracle that humans can live together while we are having so many trust issues between one another.
My concept of Needs, Wants and Beliefs may well provide an explanation. Trust is a human belief and is part of the Truth in the Knowledge domain of the 7 Belief systems. Humans appear to be the only species having beliefs. Other species may not have trust issues (eg, animals, plants, trees).
Some funny quotes on trust:
- “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” Ernest Hemingway
- “I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” Maya Angelou
- “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” Friedrich Nietzsche
- “All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie dust.” J.M. Barrie, creator of Peter Pan.
Do You Trust Me? (2004) by Blanche
band, lyrics, video, Wiki-band, Wiki-album+song
Do you love me?
Yes I love you…
And you trust me?
I’m not sure…
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.