A few weeks ago, someone asked me a question. Her question bugged me. The very same question was also on my mind. I had not raised my question as it would reveal my doubt and/or fear. Moreover, it’s unlikely I would have received a relevant answer. My answer to her question was evasive.
My blog title is not a generic thesis. It’s valid in case of a conflict between our conscious and our subconscious. My (and her) subconscious know the answer (ie, a “no”), while our conscious is/was still looking for a “yes”. Actually, such questions have an ulterior motive and are not genuine.
Mid 2019, I published my blog One question says more than a thousand answers. In principle, all of our answers can be lies. However, most of our questions are genuine and thus reveal our true intentions. The exception is reverse psychology, when we ask or say the opposite of what we think.
Example: I once asked someone: are we really friends? My question had not been appreciated. My doubt was genuine though, but asking my question had (then) equalled answering that question – for both of us.
Hence, we prefer not to raise such questions while we continue looking for ways to answer such questions anyway. The person in my first paragraph claims that she is unable to remember her question to me. I doubt that. At least, the Dutch PM says that he has no active memory of such situations.
The episode above did not end well. No surprise there. Actually, I felt relieved because I have learned that I must listen to my subconscious. Else, too much tension will build up in my body, which will be looking for a way out. In my case, a tension overload results in lower back pain.
It’s not easy to trust your subconscious. I use my consciousness to validate my subconscious. However, in some cases asking questions equals answering questions.
An excerpt of some great quotes on questions and answers:
- “Never ask a question unless the answer makes a difference.” Proverb
- “A prudent question is one half of wisdom.” Francis Bacon
- “There are no right answers to wrong questions.” Ursula K. Le Guin
- “Questions are never indiscreet, answers sometimes are.” Oscar Wilde
Would I Lie To You ? (1992) by Charles & Eddie
duo, lyrics, video, Wiki-duo, Wiki-song
Look into my eyes, can’t you see they’re open wide?
Would I lie to you, baby, would I lie to you? (Oh, yeah)
Don’t you know it’s true, girl, there’s no one else but you?
Would I lie to you, baby, yeah? Come on
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.
Listen to your soul. He knows best what you want!!