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The paradoxical origin of misogyny

Contemporary views on misogyny are quite simple: men are sexist and responsible for misogyny. No further action – let alone research – is deemed necessary. The objective fact that (nearly) all men are raised by their mothers does not even raise any suspicion.

“According to a new study by researchers at the University of the Basque Country in Spain, mothers are the primary source of sexist attitudes held by their children. In a sample of 1,455 adolescents aged 11 to 17 and their parents, the researchers found a strong influence of the mothers’ discriminatory ideas and behaviors on both sons and daughters. The findings were published in the Spanish psychology journal Psicothema in September.”

Forbes-2011: Are Mothers Most Responsible For Sexist Attitudes?

This topic came up in a recent conversation with an African friend. She blames her mother for her mother’s misogynistic views. The sons were treated as princelings and the daughter faced her mother’s hostility. Moreover, nobody believed the daughter until those misogynistic views came to light.

I don’t have a sister; only a brother. In my view, our parental upbringing was (at the very least) neutral. My general views towards women have remained positive, despite my specific negative experiences (eg, divorce, reverse psychology). In my view, misogyny is only a matter of nurture; not nature.

For a long time, I did suspect that mothers must be accountable – if not responsible – for misogyny because mothers are (usually) the primary caretakers. Until now, I never even felt the urge to check my suspicion. I suppose this explains the simple view: men are sexist and responsible for misogyny.

[Black] mothers raise their daughters and love their sons.

various sources: Essence-2020, Journal of Family Psychology-2010, Pub Med-2010, Quora, ResearchGate-2010

Daughters (2003) by John Mayer
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-song

So fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

So mothers be good to your daughters, too
So mothers be good to your daughters, too

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