Recently, I dreamt about being ignored. The evening before, something happened that may well have triggered that dream. Feeling ignored may, however, be misguided as not everyone pays immediate attention. Ghosting is a modern name of deliberately ignoring virtual contact (eg, my 2019 blog).
Ignoring someone may look like a powerful tool to express your discontent but that tool only works if the other person still feels connected to you.
When both persons feel either connected or disconnected, there is no feeling of being ignored.
Not paying immediate attention is a choice based on priorities (eg, time management).
There are several reasons for feeling ignored:
- IN OUR OWN VIEW:
- self-esteem doubts
- lack of control
- not worthy of attention
Source: PT-2021
- IN THE VIEW OF OTHERS:
- They feel burdened
- They think you deserve it
- They think it’s for the best
Source: DLM-2021
There may be another and more fundamental reason, being interconnectedness. My recent blog Theory of Everything (3) shows that interconnectedness is the “floor” on which everything is built. Denying a connection with someone is a (very) severe punishment – whatever the reason.
Some interesting quotes on feeling ignored:
- “There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.” Oscar Wilde
- “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” Robin Williams
- “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” Marc and Angel
- “Distance doesn’t separate people. Silence does.” Jeff Hood
- “Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.” Mother Teresa
Connection (2018) by oneRepublic
band, lyrics, video, Wiki-band, Wiki-song
[Chorus 1]
Can I get a connection?
Can I get, can I get a connection?
Can I get a connection?
Can I get, can I get a connection?
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.
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