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A blog by Leon Oudejans

Damaged goods (2)

Late 2015, I published my blog Damaged goods. Recently, I noticed a Tiny Buddha post: you’ll keep meeting the same person in different bodies until you learn the lesson. With hindsight, this feels valid in my situation. However, which lesson should I learn? The picture at the right??

I also consider myself as damaged goods. The main difference with others is that I healed myself. Others remain stuck in anger, denial, the past, victim role, etc. It took me a burnout (2013) and a subsequent 18 month depression to be willing to change and heal myself. I’m a survivor; not a victim.

Somehow, this (formerly) damaged man attracts damaged women (or vice versa). Perhaps, it’s because we can relate to each other. Possible, it’s because I need, want or believe in helping them healing themselves. Nevertheless, I know very well that you can only help yourself (eg, lyrics, song).

Hence, which lesson should I learn? Should I stop meeting damaged goods to save myself? Better safe than sorry. Moreover, the older you get, the more likely that you will meet damaged goods. To some extent, I have learned to give up when beyond repair (eg, my blog, second picture).

Giving up on someone (eg, 2017 blog, lyrics, song) doesn’t make me proud. It makes me feel that I was inadequate to help someone. Perhaps, that might be my lesson: it’s not about me but about them. Everyone has a choice to accept help – or not. Accepting help is not a weakness.

Perhaps, I’m still learning my lesson – or there is no lesson to be learned. To be continued – or not.

“The biggest lesson I learned this year is to not force anything; conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for. Whatever flows, it flows, what crashes, it crashes. It is what it is.”

The MindsJournal

Save Me (1976) by Joan Armatrading
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-album+song

Note 1: all markings (bolditalicunderlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.

Note 2: the song above is a beautiful illustration to this topic and/but is not about how I view myself.


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