Last Friday, someone dared me to analyze him. I told him that he is an introvert compensating with extravert behaviour. He was very surprised by my analysis because no one had ever dared to describe him like that. He disliked the word “compensation” though. I told him that we all compensate.
“In psychology, compensation is a strategy whereby one covers up, consciously or unconsciously, weaknesses, frustrations, desires, or feelings of inadequacy or incompetence in one life area through the gratification or (drive towards) excellence in another area.” Wikipedia
My final test in elementary school advised an “intermediate general secondary education” (in Dutch: MAVO-4) to my parents. I was considered too young for my age. Today, that advice would be an insult to many parents. Those parents want their children above their advised level. Not my parents.
With the knowledge of hindsight, that school advice developed a fighting spirit in me. I became determined proving it had been wrong, ie, compensation. It just occurred to me that writing about my dating experiences, might also be an example of compensation. Probably there are more examples.
Nowadays, I pretend to be a country boy living a simple life. Not everyone is fooled by that. Still, it’s true – up to a point. I do not like writing difficult words, sentences or articles. I don’t want to be viewed as a philosopher. Philosophy has been responsible for developing the worst human beliefs or “theories”.
I prefer viewing myself as a contemporary Simon Carmiggelt (1913-1987), who published his daily (mind) “twist” (in Dutch: gedachtekronkel). It’s unlikely that I will ever write a book because that would prevent me from publishing on a daily basis. Often, people view writing a book as more important though.
Early 2022, I wrote about the (my) Big-small principle. Some people feel small while they like or pretend to be Big. I usually refer to this as the Calimero-complex, a 1960s TV series about a charming but unfortunate black & blue chicken. Others know they are viewed as Big and/but pretend to be small.
I suppose we are all pretenders, showing an image to others that should benefit our Self.
Good luck pretending.
The Pretender (1976) by Jackson Browne
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-song
Are you there?
Say a prayer for the Pretender
Who started out so young and strong
Only to surrender
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless stated otherwise.
Carl Gustav Jung, a Swiss psychologist, around 1960, divided people into three categories, according to their interaction with the outside world :
introverts, extraverts and ambiverts. In every category ,
are people with qualities but they are different from each other. Extroverts are
sociable, they like to work in a team, to be the center of attention, to be in the company of other people, etc. Introverts are more shy, feel better alone, are cautious, but are very creative. They don’t like to get out of their area of comfort.
Ambiverts are the happiest with the ability to adapt to any situation. They are the best listeners. After this brief presentation, it is easy to know what temperament you have…or to label your friend who is not sociable and prefers to stay alone at home, to avoid parties /introvert .!.. Source Mr. Internet