Since several days, someone is provoking me to dare what she does: visiting a swingers’ club. I told her that I’m not interested in a hedonistic lifestyle. It just doesn’t match my character. Usually, my curiosity would win; not now. I prefer to be true to myself rather than entering her game of truth or dare?
A few years ago, a new friend surprised me by asking me to do the very same. I refused and got worried about her health. She reassured me she was fine. I did not trust her reassurances and asked for evidence. A few weeks later, she called me and apologized to me. I’m glad I trusted my intuition.
I believe in risk management, both professionally and personally. By definition, high reward = high risk (eg, cryptocurrencies, Ponzi schemes). Similarly, low risk = low reward (eg, savings accounts). In general, my professional and personal risk appetite is low. I’m not a thrillseeker; see my pushing boundaries blog.
She said that I could just watch (her). I replied I was not eager leading myself into temptation; see my recent blog. Why would I want to mess with my head? Moreover, what’s next? Developing a crush on a nightfly without having any hope and having constant fear? See my blogs on Doubt-Fear-Hope-Love.
Why do I even bother to entertain her game of truth or dare? Actually, she is playing mind games on me; also see my blogs of 2015 and 2016. She is very good at that, which has raised my curiosity. Once I accept her argument that my refusal is about daring, I will lose her mind game. She is very smart.
Her latest trick is this one: dare to be brave. Another smart reverse psychology trick; see my blogs on reverse psychology. In the summer of 2012, I had a long walk with someone. Suddenly she asked me: do you know what reverse psychology is? I did not. Her explanation has been very important in my life.
The woman who is playing mind games with me, uses reverse psychology as an attack to get what she wants. Some people use it to defend themselves because they are in (deep) denial, usually following a traumatic event. The first stimulates my brain, while the latter is toxic.
I’m curious what her next moves will be.
More likely, she will give up on me.
I prefer the truth.
She prefers to dare.
I haven’t heard from her after informing her about this blog.
After the Thrill Is Gone (1975) by the Eagles
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[Bridge]
You’re afraid you might fall out of fashion
And you’re feeling cold and small
Any kind of love without passion
That ain’t no kind of loving at all, well
Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.
Unfortunately, these “hedonistic” clubs, against nature, have also emerged in my country, in a big ci ty, with two excellent universities, listed among the best in the world. Recently, a young woman was taken by her boyfriend to such a Club, without being warned about the specifics of the activity. She was waiting to be asked as future wife. He, on the other hand, wanted strong hedonistic experiences . She left the club and returned to her house traumatized. She confessed to a magazine that her experience was known to other people. Humanity is in crisis dear readers. I wonder if our ” houses of tolerance” are banned, why are these clubs approved? Rhetorical question.