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A blog by Leon Oudejans

The 7 elements that define the type of relationship

Last Friday, I had an epiphany. In my 2015 blog, I wrote about the 4 ingredients that constitute a relationship. My 2016 blog added another 3. My 2021 blog was a summary. These 7 ingredients define many (or all) types of relationships: communication, forgiveness, intimacy, respect, togetherness, trust and vulnerability.

Any type of relationship starts – and ends – with communication.

A good relationship requires (mutual) respect.

Trust is essential in any type of cooperation.

Any group requires togetherness.

Forgiveness is (probably) essential in a friendship (eg, errors, faults, mistakes).

When you add vulnerability to a friendship then it may result in a Best Friend Forever.

Without intimacy, no relationship is complete.

I’ve asked several friends and they confirmed my diagram above. One of them asked if loyalty is missing. In my view, these 7 ingredients are input while loyalty is output, like Love (eg, my blogs on cause & effect).

My diagram works vertically as well: first down and then up. Essentially, the vertical movement represents the dimension of Time (and Space). A former girlfriend and I are now BFF’s. Some have become friends. With some others, I’m no longer communicating because we have become strangers.

It’s not always clear to me, why these epiphanies happen. I do follow up on these thoughts right away, else I will lose ownership because such thoughts will just vanish (eg, 2009 TED video). I suppose, there’s a meaning and purpose in them. Either for me or for someone else, who will be reading this blog.

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”

A quote by Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961), a Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst.

Can We Still Be Friends (1978) by Todd Rundgren
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-artist, Wiki-song

We can’t play this game anymore
But can we still be friends?
Things just can’t go on like before
But can we still be friends?

Note: all markings (bolditalicunderlining) by LO unless in quotes or stated otherwise.


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