A month ago, I had an epiphany. I suddenly realized that negativity = not forgetting + not forgiving + not loving (yourself). My blog title is the opposite, for obvious reasons. Positivity = forget + forgive + love (yourself).
I’m not entirely sure about this but negativity seems to be a choice in our life.
I was able to turn my (negative) emotions into positive writing. My empathy is still running high but its overload is mostly gone.
I know people who appear always positive despite loads of negativity. I also know people who appear eternally negative. Hence, I think, feel and believe that both positivity and negativity are our choice in life.
My words “choice in life” may suggest that it’s easy making such a choice. Far from it. The dark side in our life is strong and fighting it is a daily struggle.
“Psychology has identified this pull towards the dark side as a “negativity bias” (see here too) that we are all predisposed to. From an evolutionary perspective, human beings have learned that paying attention to the negative is more important than dwelling on the positive. Those whose gene pools encouraged them to ignore predators in favor of stopping to smell the roses have been killed off in favor of a more pragmatic genetic profile. There is value (sometimes critical value) in addressing the negative.”The Psychology of Wellbeing
Is All Within Your Reach
It’s matter over mind
Find the strength inside
Let’s turn it all around with
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