The big-small principle is my invention of many, many years ago. My principle works as follows: people who inflate their ego (eg, through arrogance) will often look petty and/or shallow in the eyes of others. Similarly, people who express humility to others, may appear impressive to those others.
I suppose that I’m not very good at humility because it didn’t – and still doesn’t – fit my role in life. Instead, I’ve “chosen” for vulnerability because it fits my character. Actually, I struggle with the word “chosen” because it wasn’t – and isn’t – a conscious choice. If there’s any choice then it’s subconscious.
I fail to understand why the big-small principle is not a universal concept, while it seems so obvious. A Google search only reveals unrelated concepts, like the Little/Big principle and Think Big, but Start Small.
Actually, I got stuck at this point until my mind started wondering whether the micro vs macro perspective might be relevant here. A micro focus (eg, yourself) is usually very different from a macro perspective (eg, others). Perhaps, my big-small principle is an application of the (universal) micro vs macro perspective.
The nature vs nurture debate (eg, my blogs) is probably relevant as well. I doubt that the big-small principle is a given at birth (ie, nature). Our upbringing (ie, nurture) is probably quite relevant in our “choice”. Quite often, parents stimulate (i) boys to be more assertive (eg, in a group), and (ii) girls to be less assertive.
Last weekend, I learned that my big-small principle is related to the Calimero principle, a.k.a. they are BIG and I’m small and scared.
BIG vs SMALL (video)
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