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Gratitude

I never wrote about this topic before. That is weird as it’s quite important to me: both in giving as in receiving. After checking my blogs, I found a few references but only in this context: do not expect gratitude.

In general, I differentiate between the following five types of situations: family, friends, sports, study, work. Gratitude might be the most obvious in sports and the least obvious at work. Notwithstanding those five situations, I express my gratitude for each new day. It’s part of my faith or agape (ie, divine love).

Our expressions of gratitude might suffer from the “natural” imbalance between giving and receiving. The less gratitude you receive, the less likely you will give. Hence, a downward spiral. The opposite may also be valid: the more gratitude you receive, the more likely you will give. It may become a “new normal”.

The question remains: why would gratitude not be part of an “old normal” in our lives?

First and foremost, a “Thank you” (note) expresses rational awareness of a (minor) deed. Expressing gratitude is an emotional act (eg, embrace, hug, kiss).

Secondly, expressing gratitude suggests an I Owe You or a quid pro quo. We prefer not to be in debt.

Thirdly, expressing gratitude makes us vulnerable, something that we often try to avoid. We prefer to express strength and see vulnerability as a weakness. We tend to forget the big-small principle.

Last but not least, we tend to regard ourselves higher than we regard others. So, why would we be grateful to “lower lifeforms” (sic) ? This observation relates to egocentrism, narcissism, self-esteem and self-love.

Gratitude might well be our best-kept secret.

Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others.

A quote by Marcus Tullius Cicero (106 BC – 43 BC), “a Roman statesman, lawyer, scholar, philosopher and Academic Skeptic“.

Gratitude (2020) by Brandon Lake
artist, lyrics, video, Wiki-1, Wiki-2

All my words fall short
I got nothing new
How could I express
All my gratitude?

Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless stated otherwise.

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