Last Sunday, my girlfriend and I had a discussion in which I argued that the time is never ripe. After a glance, she agreed with me because her patients always argue the very same thing: the time is not ripe (eg, for an appointment, a medical procedure, and so on).
The above relates to several other topics in my blogs: balancing risk-reward, being busy busy busy, cycle of doubt-fear-hope-love, procrastination, priorities and choices, and risk management. Essentially, we like to keep our (future) options open for as long as possible.
There is another remarkable link to my more fundamental blog concepts: Deed-Words-Intentions and Needs-Wants-Beliefs. In other words: we believe that our intentions (eg, for doing or telling something) need a better moment (eg, as the other doesn’t want to hear it yet).
It’s tempting to claim that I’ve changed following my 2013 burn-out and subsequent depression (my blogs). Well, I have but not always. I’m still struggling with this phenomenon: the time isn’t ripe. There is something I need to tell and I do not know how. I’ve asked a friend for advice. I know what she will say: just tell it gently.
Probably, our mind increases the downside of the risk of doing/telling something, while our ratio limits its upside. Perhaps, we assume that someone will overreact, and/or we expect a negative response. Hence, we assume it’s better to be safe than sorry and thus we postpone the things that we should do or say.
How do we know when the time is ripe?
“Time itself is neutral; it can be used either destructively or constructively. More and more I feel that the people of ill will have used time much more effectively than have the people of good will. We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people. Human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability; it comes through the tireless efforts of men willing to work to be co-workers with God, and without this hard work, time itself becomes an ally of the forces of social stagnation. We must use time creatively, in the knowledge that the time is always ripe to do right.” A quote from Why We Can’t Wait by Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968). Note: bold marking in quote by LO.
Sign of the Times (2017) by Harry Styles
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Note: all markings (bold, italic, underlining) by LO unless stated otherwise.
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