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The risk of love is loss

Some weeks ago, I added a blog topic in my notes: Love & Loss. I’ve been staring at that topic ever since and didn’t know what to make of it. I knew its meaning was not to write about a love lost. It felt like the opposite. This week, I googled for Love & Loss and noticed this quote, which comes very close to what I was looking for as a meaning for the topic of Love & Loss:

“The risk of love is loss and the price of loss is grief. But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love.” Hilary Stanton Zunin

At times, I wonder why I still bother continuing my dating efforts. Until seeing that quote, I assumed it was about not losing hope. What’s left in life when you’ve lost hope? Nothing.

Our lives are governed by an eternal cycle of Doubt – Fear – Hope – Love (my blogs).François de La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680), a French writer, once stated: 

“Hope and fear are inseparable. There is no hope without fear, nor any fear without hope.”

British poet Alfred, Lord Tennyson (1809-1892) added the following famous words in his poem In Memoriam A.H.H.

“‘Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all.”

It’s intriguing that no one can define Love. The ancient Greek used 5 different words for love. A 2016 Time magazine article by Rabbi David Wolpe argues that we are defining Love the wrong way.

Perhaps, Love is a (natural) push-and-pull force (my blogs), similar to magnetism. That might be a reason why we cannot resist trying over and over again. The risk-reward balance (my blogs) must be skewed in favour of reward. Yes, love hurts but not trying again will hurt us more.

Love Hurts (1960) by Nazareth (1974)
artists, lyrics, video, Wiki-1, Wiki-2

Love hurts, love scars 
Love wounds and marks 
Any heart

Note: all markings (bolditalic, underlining) by LO unless stated otherwise.


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