Without the recent Dutch language interview with Belgian philosopher Griet vanderMassen, I might not have arrived at the conclusion in part 5: dualism (Knowledge vs Power) is primarily male, while trialism (Love-Knowledge-Power) is primarily female. Before I started writing, male dualism also applied to me. Despite my writing, I still have mixed feelings about love.
A 2011 Psychology Today article, Why can’t men love like women?), claims that “maybe …. men just love differently”. Author Dr Peggy Drexler refers to research by Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher and University of Pennsylvania neuroscientist Dr. Ruben Gur and “other studies [] on the biological link to male-female communication styles”.
The PT article touches upon the word “vulnerability” and even on “knowledge is power” but then only concludes that “love is [] just expressed in ways that will be clouded by the mysteries of the male gender”.
Interestingly, the biblical story of Samson and Delilah connects the concepts of love, knowledge, power and vulnerability. In a nutshell, the story goes like this: Samson was invincible until he fell in love with Delilah and told her the secret behind his power. Delilah betrays Samson by using that knowledge against him, and Samson loses his power.
The biblical story of Samson and Delilah probably also explains why men generally fall in love more slowly than women. Love makes men lose their “power” and become (more) vulnerable. To some extent, this makes men feel “afraid” of love. This might be why love gives men mixed feelings.
A choice for Knowledge and/or Power is less likely to create emotional vulnerability than Love. It’s tempting to argue that men even apply both knowledge and power in relationships with women – rather than love – because it decreases their vulnerability.
If men and women would be equal (eg, biologically, emotionally, sexually) then there would be zero attraction between both genders. Moreover, it would take away the need for having two genders. The inequality between men and women keeps them interested in each other. The strive for equality is doomed to fail – similar to socialism – because nobody feels equal to another person. Everybody feels that (s)he is unique.
“Abide not with dualism,
Carefully avoid pursuing it;
As soon as you have right and wrong,
Confusion ensues, and Mind is lost. (172)”
A quote from Buddhist Scriptures (1959) by Edward Conze (1904-1979), a “British-born, German national known as a scholar of Buddhism”.
Duel, Eye to Eye (1985) by Propaganda
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