In general, I still believe in making compromises. Nevertheless, I have learned that compromising always disappoints someone. Based upon their assumptions about my/your behaviour, the disappointed party expected more. Nowadays, I’m compromising less.
For some time, an American friend has been urging me finding a job. I told him that I do have a job albeit unpaid (ie, my writing). Why would I want a job and not being able spending the additional money? I seldom compromise at work: it’s either all or nothing.
In my latest – and probably last – job interview, the first question of the second team of interviewers was whether I would stop my writing (after being hired). Immediately, I realised that the interview was doomed to fail. Hence, my answer was a flat “No”, without even bothering asking for an explanation on their question – or elaborating on my answer.
Several years ago, I prepared a diagram for my son explaining success and failure over time in relation to commitment (ie, allocation of resources) and (not) compromising. I just noticed that my 2015 diagram did not show life after working. Please find below my 2019 version:
The diagram above shows that we are compromising most of the time in our lives, apart from our earliest childhood. Our available hours of sleeping are often the closing entry.
“In any compromise between food and poison, it is only death that can win. In any compromise between good and evil, it is only evil that can profit.”A quote by Ayn Rand (1905-1982)
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